Right now my brother and mother are engaged in a pretty bad power struggle? My brother lost his job and was evicted as a result; now his family (himself, gf and dog) are staying in my mom's spare bedroom. Their relationship has always been volatile with enough blame to be given to both but things have boiled over now.
My brother feels my mom doesn't respect him or his girlfriend. His oft-repeated thought is that my mother would rather choose her husband over her own kids. To an extent, I believe him because I felt the same way when she 'married' her 2nd husband.
My heart hurts for my family. I can't do much but lend an ear and a few words of so-called wisdom. I have no money. I have no spare room. Heck, I don't even have the energy to expend on this drama.
I wish I could take a magic wand and make the situation better. I wish I could move my brother and his gf to a place of their own. I wish I could make my mom see that what she calls tough love and nagging is actually not doing anything but retarding my brother's ambition and making him resent her.
Bottom line, I know I can't do much of anything. He needs to grow up and get motivated to get his shit together. Actually both he and his gf do. Sleeping in after staying up all night like vampires is not conducive to a productive life.
I wish I could make my mom see that he's hurting. He's been hurting since childhood but he can't keep blaming our parents for how his life turned out.
Hermanito, necesitas ponerte las pilas y hacer algo de tu vida. Me duele tanto el corazon que estes en esta situacion pero la unica persona que te pueda ayudar es tu mismo. Espero que lleges a pensar asi para que te superes.
If I keep my distance from you all it's because I need my sanity. I hope all can be resolved soon. I don't want my family to hurt any more. I love you little brother, I love you mami.
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